What If You're Looking For Happiness In All The Wrong Places?

What If You’re Looking For Happiness In All The Wrong Places?

“In almost every nation — from the United States, Greece and Slovenia to South Korea, Argentina, and Bahrain — when asked what they want most in life, people put happiness at the top of their lists.” — Sonja Lyubomirsky

Is happiness at the top of your list?

If so, what do you think will make you happier?

Take a moment to think about it…

Is it:

  • Knowing what you really want to do with your life?
  • A more attentive partner?
  • Losing some weight?
  • Making more money?
  • Having more time?

If your answers are anything like these, you’re in for a surprise.

Because none of them will make you substantially happier.

Scientific research shows that what you think will make a big difference in your life actually only makes a very small difference.

And, while you are focusing on these things, you are missing out on the true source of your happiness.

That’s where most of us find ourselves.

We want happiness… 

but we don’t have a clue how it works or where to find it.

It’s our number one goal in life, but we never seem to figure out how it works

That’s why the science of happiness is so important.

It will teach you what will actually make you happy and what won’t.

And, once you know what actually makes you happy, you are able to optimize your life for your own happiness.

So, if you want to know how happiness actually works, keep reading

The Pie-Chart Theory of Happiness

We can use the pie-chart theory to learn how happiness actually works.

According to this theory, your current level of happiness is determined by your genetic set-point (50%), external circumstances (10%), and intentional activity (40%).

I know that is a lot, so let’s unpack it so that you can better understand how it works:

Your genetic set-point (50%)

Your genes determine 50% of your happiness. 

In other words, half of your happiness is fixed and you can’t do anything about it.

You’re either lucky to have “happy genes” or unlucky to have “unhappy genes.”

There’s nothing you can do about it.

Your external circumstances (10%)

Your life circumstances only account for 10% of your happiness.

Whether you’re rich or poor, healthy or unhealthy, married or divorced, driving a new or an old car, beautiful or not so much, doesn’t make much difference in your level of happiness.

I know.

It’s shocking, isn’t it!

Your intentional activities (40%)

This is your behavior. What you do and how you think.

This is where you can really have an impact on your happiness.


Because your behavior makes up almost half of your happiness, and it is much easier to change than your genes or your

In Conclusion

So there you have it. That’s how happiness works.

The two important takeaways are:

First, happy people aren’t happy because they have more money, faster cars, or better looks than you do.

Second, the key to your happiness lies in changing your behavior — what you do and how you think.

So, spend some time today doing the things that make you happy.

You will be happy you did!

If you need some help getting started, check out:

7 Things That Happy People Do Differently

Call To Action

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Steve Spring

Steve is the founder of Live Your Life On Purpose, where his goal is to help others transform their health, minds, and relationships. A former management consultant and executive coach, Steve is also a Christ-follower, husband, dad, and entrepreneur who loves his family, friends and helping others live their life on purpose.