When I was a boy my heroes were cowboys and superheroes. They were the ones I saw on TV like Batman, Superman, and the Rifleman.
To me these were real men. Men who saw a problem, took matters into their own hands, and solved the problem. They were what I thought real men should be.
As a result, I grew up believing that real men don’t cry, don’t express their feelings and don’t ask for help.
I bet you thought the same thing when you were growing up. I bet that you wanted to be able to do it all without help from anyone else. Real men hate asking for help, because asking for help is a sign of weakness, and what man wants to appear weak?
If you are anything like me, you had a lot of male friends when you were in elementary school. Somewhere along the line maybe in high school, college, or when you got married you started too spend less time with other men. This was because having close male friends required you too be open, to confess your insecurities, and admit to your vulnerabilities.
Real men don’t do these things. Real men deal with their problems without help. They don’t need other men because they don’t want to appear unmanly.
At some point we all realize that we are not superheros. We are not able to save the world – or ourselves for that matter – without the help of others. We need other men.
Unfortunately most of us learn this the hard way, because It isn’t easy for us to ask for help from other men. Everytime we ask for help from other men we are taking a risk. The risk of being laughed at. The risk being thought of as not being a real man.
We need to learn to take this risk and put our fears aside. This requires us to be strong. This requires us to be men.
When we are willing to do this, we learn that other men have been where we are now, and gotten through the same things that we are going through. We also learn that very few men (if any) achieve anything great alone. Sports stars have teammates, coaches, and cheerleaders. You should too. Be willing to ask the men in your life to support you.
It’s great to have the help, the encouragement, and the fellowship of other successful men who want you to be the best person that you can be. It makes all the difference in the world.
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