Multitasking Is Destroying Your Relationships – And How To Fix It

Multitasking Is Destroying Your Relationships – And How To Fix It

Do you think that you can accomplish multiple things at the same time? Do you consider yourself a multitasker? 

I bet that most of us do. We think that we can listen to a podcast while we are reading our email. Talk on the phone while we are texting someone else. Or even, check our email while we are having a conversation with our spouse.

I used to think that I could successfully complete multiple tasks at the same time too. What I found is that it is not possible to do more than one thing at a time.

In fact, Stanford University researchers have found that multitasking doesn’t work. They found that:

“People who are regularly bombarded with several streams of electronic information do not pay attention, control their memory or switch from one job to another as well as those who prefer to complete one task at a time.”

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Multitasking And Relationships

How do you think that your spouse feels when she is trying too have a conversation with you, and you are texting, checking email, watching TV, or surfing the web? I am willing to guess that they feel annoyed, frustrated, and unimportant to you.

I bet that your relationships will improve if you learn to focus your attention on one thing at at time. Complete one task before moving on to the next one, and focus your attention on your spouse when you are with your spouse.

The 5 Senses Rule

I recently found something that can help called the “5 Senses Rule” by John Richmond. The “5 Senses Rule” is very simple, and states that when you are interacting with someone you give them all 5 senses. You do not look at, listen to, touch, smell, or even taste anything else if it will take away from your focus on the other person. 

Try this the next time that you are communicating with your spouse, give them all 5 of your senses. Make eye contact, listen to what they are saying, and focus all of your senses on them. 

Implementing the “5 Senses Rule” will not be easy if you are like me. It will be hard work, and it will take some practice. If you try it, I am sure that the “5 Sense Rule” will help you improve all of your relationships.

Try this for a week and let me know how it works for you in the comments below.

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Steve is the founder of Live Your Life On Purpose, where his goal is to help men become better  and fathers. A former management consultant and executive coach, Steve is also a Christ-follower, , and entrepreneur who loves his family, friends, and helping others achieve all that they were created to be.

 

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