Multitasking Is Destroying Your Relationships – And How To Fix It

Multitasking Is Destroying Your Relationships – And How To Fix It

Do you think that you can accomplish multiple things at the same time? Do you consider yourself a multitasker?  I bet that most of us do. We think that we can listen to a podcast while we are reading our email. Talk on the phone while we are texting someone else. Or even, check our email while we are having a conversation with our spouse. I used to think that I could successfully complete multiple tasks at the same time too. What I found is that it is not possible to do more than one thing at a time. In fact, Stanford University researchers have found that multitasking doesn’t work. They found that: “People who are regularly bombarded with several streams of electronic information do not pay attention, control their memory or switch from one job to another as well as those who prefer to complete one task at a time.” Focusing on one thing at a time is one of the keys to creating the life of your dreams. Click here to get my free checklist to help you implement all 10 of my keys to creating the life of your dreams. Multitasking And Relationships How do you think that your spouse feels when she is trying too have a conversation with you, and you are texting, checking email, watching TV, or surfing the web? I am willing to guess that they feel annoyed, frustrated, and unimportant to you. I bet that your relationships will improve if you learn to focus your attention on one thing at at time. Complete one task before moving on to the next one, and focus your attention on...
6 Simple Habits Of A Healthy Man – And Why They Matter

6 Simple Habits Of A Healthy Man – And Why They Matter

I know that you’re thinking that you have heard it all when it comes to living a healthy life. You are tired of hearing that you need to drink more water and eat your vegetables. You are tired of hearing that you need to make more time for exercise. What you may not have heard is that you need to stay healthy because your family is depending you. If you don’t stay healthy, you may not be there when they need you the most. Several years ago I became ill because I was not taking care of myself. It happened so quickly that I didn’t even realize that I was sick until it was too late. I was so sick that I spent four months in the hospital, and it took many months of focusing on my health before I had anything close to a “normal” life. Taking care of your health is one of the keys to creating the life of your dreams. Click here to get my free checklist to help you implement all 10 of my keys to creating the life of your dreams. It changed the way I see life, and it taught me these six simple habits that you can use to improve your health. 1. Get Enough Sleep – We all know that we need more sleep, and the evidence is pretty clear that that lack of sleep can shorten your life. Although it’s not entirely clear how many hours of sleep we really need, it is clear that failing to get at least seven hours of sleep increases your risk of major illnesses including cancer, heart...
You Are Not Your Job

You Are Not Your Job

I recently read an article about Matthew Bowers. In the article, Matthew was expressing his concern about what he referred to as an “alarming shift” in his mindset concerning his career. What alarmed him was the fact that he had recently discovered that his identity was no longer exclusively tied to his job. “I always saw myself as a high-performance individual who was focused solely on working my way up to VP, but lately I’ve been worried that I may be developing aspects of my personality that have nothing to do with climbing the corporate ladder,” said Bowers, 42, noting that he has recently observed in himself an “unhealthy” level of preoccupation with personal interests, activities, and relationships that can in no way give him a leg up professionally. “Just the other day, I was telling my boss about my son’s soccer game—at work, mind you—and he responded by calling me ‘a real family man.’ My boss called me that. It was a huge wake-up call.” TheOnion.com After his “wake-up call” Matthew determined that he would return to his roots, which for him included working until at least 9 pm each night, and missing his kids soccer games and piano recitals. I can relate too Matthew’s story. In the past I have found it easy to get caught up in my career at the expense of everything else. I have a feeling I’m not alone. For many of us work is often where we spend most of our time, energy and attention. Knowing that your job is not your identity is one of the keys to creating the life of your dreams....
4 Types of Men That You Need In Your Life

4 Types of Men That You Need In Your Life

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” ― Jim Rohn I have been thinking a lot lately about the idea that we’re only as good as the five people that we spend the most time with. I think that a lot of my struggles have come from trying to go it alone. I have found that if I surround myself with men who encourage and challenge me, it helps me to become a better man. Maybe you are in the same situation. If so, you’re not alone! Having the right men in your life is a key to creating the life of your dreams. Click here to get my free checklist to help you implement all 10 of my keys to creating the life of your dreams. The title of a recent post on Salon.com was “American men’s hidden crisis: They need more friends!” The article says “that of all people in America, adult, white, heterosexual men have the fewest friends. Moreover, the friendships they have, if they’re with other men, provide less emotional support and involve lower levels of self-disclosure and trust than other types of friendships.” You might find it encouraging to know that you’re not alone in this, although it might not feel that way. Who you surround yourself with makes a huge difference in your life, and when you’re surrounded by the wrong people, it has a huge negative impact on you. If you find that you spend a lot of time spinning your wheels and flinging a lot of mud, but never moving forward, it might be because...
7 Secrets to Choosing the Right Tools for Achieving Your Goals

7 Secrets to Choosing the Right Tools for Achieving Your Goals

We all know the importance of setting goals for ourselves, but many people haven’t realized the great value a good goal setting tool can offer. Selecting the right tool or setting up a right goal tracking system, not only can help you clarify and organize your goals, but more importantly, it can significantly increase your chance of reaching them faster with less effort. Setting goals is a key to creating the life of your dreams. Click here to get my free checklist to help you implement all 10 of my keys to creating the life of your dreams.   1. Select tools based on your goal types The first step in deciding on a goal setting system is to identify what kind of goals you are setting. Is it a personal development goal, a business goal, a career goal, or a health or fitness goal? Different goals call for different goal setting methods. You will want to pick tools that are specially designed for your type of goals. Sometimes it helps to use different tools for goals of different types. 2. Select tools that are comprehensive and easy to use Secondly, it’s critical to select a system that is easy to use and doesn’t require a lot of time to learn and setup. This cannot be over emphasized. A goal setting tool is to help you focus on your goals, how you achieve your results, not on learning to use myriads of features, or anything else. If a system is too difficult to use, you’d do better without it. However, “easy to use” does not mean it has to be simple. A...
5 Myths About Bible Reading

5 Myths About Bible Reading

If I asked you, “What are your most important priorities?” my guess is that “God” would be at the top of the list. As Christian men, we want to honor our Creator and live according to God’s principles. Once when Jesus was asked about priorities, he said this one should take the top spot: “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength” (Mark 12:29-30, NIV). Most of us struggle with putting God first in our schedules, particularly in the form of Bible reading. The Barna Group, a premiere research organization, reports that only 37% of Americans read the Bible once a week or more. In the same report, the Barna Group also shares this shocking finding: ”Among those who say their Bible reading decreased in the last year, the number-one reason was busyness: 40% report being too busy with life’s responsibilities (job, family, etc.), an increase of seven points from just one year ago.” Two truths emerge here: Most of us don’t read the Bible regularly, and that trend is increasing because we feel too busy. How do we counteract this trend and make time for Bible reading? The answer is not just in managing your time better. It’s about changing your perspective on Bible reading. Here are five myths that hinder spiritual growth and how to address them. Managing your priorities is a key to creating the life of your dreams. Click here to get my free checklist to help you implement all...