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10 Steps To Anger Management

When someone cuts you off on the freeway, do you give in to your rage? Do you burst out in anger when your child misbehaves?

Anger is a very natural emotion. However, learning to deal with your anger in a positive manner is important, both for your well-being and that of others who are near and dear to you. When you cannot control your temper, you and everyone around you suffer the consequences. Continue reading

Multitasking Is Destroying Your Relationships – And How To Fix It

Do you think that you can accomplish multiple things at the same time? Do you consider yourself a multitasker? 

I bet that most of us do. We think that we can listen to a podcast while we are reading our email. Talk on the phone while we are texting someone else. Or even, check our email while we are having a conversation with our spouse.

I used to think that I could successfully complete multiple tasks at the same time too. What I found is that it is not possible to do more than one thing at a time.

In fact, Stanford University researchers have found that multitasking doesn’t work. They found that:

“People who are regularly bombarded with several streams of electronic information do not pay attention, control their memory or switch from one job to another as well as those who prefer to complete one task at a time.”

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Multitasking And Relationships

How do you think that your spouse feels when she is trying too have a conversation with you, and you are texting, checking email, watching TV, or surfing the web? I am willing to guess that they feel annoyed, frustrated, and unimportant to you.

I bet that your relationships will improve if you learn to focus your attention on one thing at at time. Complete one task before moving on to the next one, and focus your attention on your spouse when you are with your spouse.

The 5 Senses Rule

I recently found something that can help called the “5 Senses Rule” by John Richmond. The “5 Senses Rule” is very simple, and states that when you are interacting with someone you give them all 5 senses. You do not look at, listen to, touch, smell, or even taste anything else if it will take away from your focus on the other person. 

Try this the next time that you are communicating with your spouse, give them all 5 of your senses. Make eye contact, listen to what they are saying, and focus all of your senses on them. 

Implementing the “5 Senses Rule” will not be easy if you are like me. It will be hard work, and it will take some practice. If you try it, I am sure that the “5 Sense Rule” will help you improve all of your relationships.

Try this for a week and let me know how it works for you in the comments below.

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Warning: Multitasking Is Killing Your Productivity

Take a moment and think about everything that you are doing right now. In addition to reading this article, the chances are good that you are also doing several other things. You might also be watching TV, checking your email, or talking on your phone. If you are like most people, you think that you can save time by doing multiple things at once.

You are probably thinking, “I am pretty good at multitasking, and that it actually helps me to get more done.” If so, you may be what researchers refer to as a “heavy multitasker.”

I hate to be the one to break it to you, but you are wrong.

You’ve been led to believe that the key to getting things done is to become a master of multitasking. When in fact, just the opposite is true.

Before I explain the myths of multitasking, do yourself a favor and turn off all of your digital devices so that you can learn about the illusion of multitasking and what you can do about it.

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The Multitasking Illusion

In the past, most people believed that multitasking was a good way to increase productivity. After all, if you’re working on several different tasks at once, you’re bound to accomplish more, right?

While most of us think that multitasking is performing two or more tasks simultaneously. Multitasking is really task-switching, or moving back and forth between two or more tasks.  This actually reduces productivity, because most of your attention is expended on the act of switching tasks, and you never really focus on either task.

“Most of the time multitasking is an illusion. You think you are multitasking but in reality you’re actually wasting time switching from one task to another.” – Bosco Tjan

Unfortunately, multitasking does not save you time. In fact, research shows that it will take you longer to complete two tasks when multitasking than it would to complete each one separately. Experts estimate that multitasking can actually lead to a 40 percent reduction in your productivity.

Multitasking Is Killing Your Productivity

Not only has research shown that multitasking reduces your productivity, it has also be shown to be harmful to your health. Here are the results of just a few of the many research studies related to multitasking:

  • Studies have also found that multitasking has a negative physical effect by prompting the release of stress hormones and adrenaline.

  • Multitasking are that it is linked to short term memory loss,  and can change your ability to concentrate and  increase gaps in your attentiveness.

  • Researchers found that people who multitask while eating don’t mentally process what they have eaten causing the to eat larger meals more often leading to weight gain.

The Multitaking Solution

Now that you understand the negative impacts of multitasking, what can you do about it?

The primary skill that you need to develop to overcome multitasking is FOCUS. Focus on one task at a time. This means means doing something, and thinking about what you’re doing at the same time. This means focusing on one task until it is completed or you are at a stopping point.

Three Ways To Improve Your Focus

1. Have A System – Keep all of your projects, next actions, and appointments in one place so that you can keep track of everything in your personal and professional life and keep things from falling through the cracks.

2. Plan Your Day – Plan your day the night before and be specific about what you want to accomplish.  Focus on your top three next actions, and knock them out early in the day before you get distracted by the other “stuff.”

3. Schedule Your Email – Email is the number one distraction for most people. Turn off your email notifications, and schedule specific times during the day too check and respond to your email.

4. Control Social Media – When you are tempted to check your Twitter, Facebook, Google+ ask yourself,  “Is this the best use of my time right now?”  If it is, great! If not, resist the temptation and move on to your next important task.

The next time you find yourself multitasking when you are trying to be productive, take a quick assessment of what you are trying to accomplish. Eliminate the distractions and focus on the most important task at that time.  This will make you happier, healthier and more productive.

Question: How can you minimize multitasking and to increase your productivity? Comment below.

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AM I REALLY ALONE?

There’s times when I think I’m alone in the world; that I have to face my problems on my own. For the most part that’s true. I come home to a semi-empty apartment. I say that because, well, I have a cat.

I’ve always had this firm belief that my problems are my own and if I have problems so do other people. I feel the last thing someone wants to hear are the problems I’m dealing with. So I basically just keep them to myself as not to be a burden. And usually I’m the one people come to with the burdens they carry.

This leaves me asking the question, If I’m the one everyone comes to with their problems; where do I go with mine?

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I have a really hard time letting people in. Sure I’ve been transparent in my previous blogs, but all that is in the past. Once in awhile an emotion creeps up from that time, but I can deal with it better now than I could then. But there have been occasions when I did open up to a few people who gave me their advice and support. And some have helped out without even being asked!

Sometimes I still feel as if I’m on an island all alone. And for the most part that’s a pretty accurate description. The only face to face human interaction I have are at my two jobs. And usually there’s too much going on to be able to stop and say, “Hey, you know what? I’m really going through something today. Can we talk about it?” This is where the advancements in technology come into play. Now, if I’m having a problem I can just send a friend a message via Facebook or text and they, hopefully, will respond.

Remember that question I asked a little while ago? If I’m the one everyone comes to with their problems; where do I go with mine?  Actually, I’ve found that I don’t have to go anywhere. If someone comes to you with a problem they are facing which is similar to yours; pay attention to the advice you give them. You can apply that same advice to the problem YOU’RE facing. I firmly believe that by helping others we in turn help ourselves.

I’ve gone through a divorce, heartbreak, death, adoption, and personal setbacks. Because of these circumstances I CAN help people see that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel and by helping them do that I, in turn, help myself. There are answers out there, but if you’re in the thick of things it’s hard to see them. But if someone comes to you with an almost identical problem; and since you’re on the outside looking in you become more aware of the answer. When you see the answer you’re giving it becomes apparent that you too can use your own advice!

So remember. Even when you think you’re all alone; you’re not. Friends and family are just a phone call or (in my case) a text away. And if you have the opportunity to help someone in need; help them. Because not only will you inevitably help yourself; you just may find you’ve made a new friend too.

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Why You Need The Support Of Other Men

When I was a boy my heroes were cowboys and superheroes. They were the ones I saw on TV like Batman, Superman, and the Rifleman.

To me these were real men. Men who saw a problem, took matters into their own hands, and solved the problem. They were what I thought real men should be.

As a result, I grew up believing that real men don’t cry, don’t express their feelings and don’t ask for help.

I bet you thought the same thing when you were growing up. I bet that you wanted to be able to do it all without help from anyone else. Real men hate asking for help, because asking for help is a sign of weakness, and what man wants to appear weak?

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If you are anything like me, you had a lot of male friends when you were in elementary school. Somewhere along the line maybe in high school, college, or when you got married you started too spend less time with other men. This was because having close male friends required you too be open, to confess your insecurities, and admit to your vulnerabilities.

Real men don’t do these things. Real men deal with their problems without help. They don’t need other men because they don’t want to appear unmanly.

At some point we all realize that we are not superheros. We are not able to save the world – or ourselves for that matter – without the help of others. We need other men.

Unfortunately most of us learn this the hard way, because It isn’t easy for us to ask for help from other men. Everytime we ask for help from other men we are taking a risk. The risk of being laughed at. The risk being thought of as not being a real man.

We need to learn to take this risk and put our fears aside. This requires us to be strong. This requires us to be men.

When we are willing to do this, we learn that other men have been where we are now, and gotten through the same things that we are going through. We also learn that very few men (if any) achieve anything great alone. Sports stars have teammates, coaches, and cheerleaders. You should too. Be willing to ask the men in your life to support you.

It’s great to have the help, the encouragement, and the fellowship of other successful men who want you to be the best person that you can be. It makes all the difference in the world.
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6 Simple Habits Of A Healthy Man – And Why They Matter

I know that you’re thinking that you have heard it all when it comes to living a healthy life. You are tired of hearing that you need to drink more water and eat your vegetables. You are tired of hearing that you need to make more time for exercise.

What you may not have heard is that you need to stay healthy because your family is depending you. If you don’t stay healthy, you may not be there when they need you the most.

Several years ago I became ill because I was not taking care of myself. It happened so quickly that I didn’t even realize that I was sick until it was too late. I was so sick that I spent four months in the hospital, and it took many months of focusing on my health before I had anything close to a “normal” life.

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It changed the way I see life, and it taught me these six simple habits that you can use to improve your health.

1. Get Enough Sleep We all know that we need more sleep, and the evidence is pretty clear that that lack of sleep can shorten your life. Although it’s not entirely clear how many hours of sleep we really need, it is clear that failing to get at least seven hours of sleep increases your risk of major illnesses including cancer, heart disease, diabetes, and obesity. Make sure that you are getting enough sleep.

2. Eat Your Breakfast I am sure that you have heard this a thousand times, but breakfast is the most important meal of the day. So the next time that you are busy, and you are tempted to rush through breakfast – don’t do it. Get up earlier (so you don’t lose sleep) and eat something containing carbohydrates, protein and a small amount of healthy fat.

3. Energize Your Exercise Let’s face it, finding the time to exercise can be difficult. We all live busy lives and getting to the gym might not be at the top of your list. The good news is that if you are creative, you can find opportunities to exercise everywhere. Walk instead of driving or taking public transportation. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. The secret is to find something that you enjoy doing so that exercising will not feel so much like work.

4. Maintain Your Hydration Since water makes up 60% of our body weight, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that water is important to your health. In order to maintain a proper water balance, you need to keep yourself well hydrated. Make sure that you drink plenty of water to keep yourself hydrated throughout the day.

5. Minimize Screen TimeOne of the reasons that we don’t have enough time for exercise, and to prepare healthy meals is that we spend too much time watching TV and following our Facebook “friends.” Minimizing your screen time will give you more time to exercise and build other healthy habits. It will also give your more time to spend with your family. Minimize your screen time.

6. Brush and floss daily I recently learned that brushing and flossing can add 6.4 years to your life. I was shocked to learn that poor oral hygiene leads to a long list of diseases including cardiovascular disease. Save your heart and add years too your life by brushing and flossing daily.

Creating healthy habits can be hard, but these simple habits will help make it easier for you. As we start a new year, make these habits part of your daily routine.

These habits will help make you a stronger and healthier man. They will help you become a man who will live a longer and healthier life. They will help you become a man who is better able to take care of his family.

Choose to adopt these simple habits, and become a better man, a better husband, and a better father.

Question: Which of these six habits will make the most difference in your life? Comment below.
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How To Experience Extraordinary Success

A few years ago I didn’t know where my life was headed.

I was frustrated and felt trapped in a job that I hated.

I was following society’s expectations, but I didn’t have a clue what I wanted to do with my life.

When the recession hit and I lost my job,  I didn’t have the slightest clue what to do next.

The worst part of all was that I was doing what I had thought was the right thing to do. I had managerial position with one of the world’s best companies and was climbing up the ladder of success.

“Before you begin climbing the ladder of success, make sure that it is leaning against the right building.”

– Stephen Covey

I don’t know about you, but it turns out that for me, the “right thing to do” sucked the life out of me.

Maybe you are like I was – trapped in a job that you hate. Wasting your time doing things that you really don’t want to be doing.

Enjoying your weekends but dreading Monday’s.

Do you want to know what happened next?

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