There’s times when I think I’m alone in the world; that I have to face my problems on my own. For the most part that’s true. I come home to a semi-empty apartment. I say that because, well, I have a cat.
I’ve always had this firm belief that my problems are my own and if I have problems so do other people. I feel the last thing someone wants to hear are the problems I’m dealing with. So I basically just keep them to myself as not to be a burden. And usually I’m the one people come to with the burdens they carry.
This leaves me asking the question, If I’m the one everyone comes to with their problems; where do I go with mine?
I have a really hard time letting people in. Sure I’ve been transparent in my previous blogs, but all that is in the past. Once in awhile an emotion creeps up from that time, but I can deal with it better now than I could then. But there have been occasions when I did open up to a few people who gave me their advice and support. And some have helped out without even being asked!
Sometimes I still feel as if I’m on an island all alone. And for the most part that’s a pretty accurate description. The only face to face human interaction I have are at my two jobs. And usually there’s too much going on to be able to stop and say, “Hey, you know what? I’m really going through something today. Can we talk about it?” This is where the advancements in technology come into play. Now, if I’m having a problem I can just send a friend a message via Facebook or text and they, hopefully, will respond.
Remember that question I asked a little while ago? If I’m the one everyone comes to with their problems; where do I go with mine? Actually, I’ve found that I don’t have to go anywhere. If someone comes to you with a problem they are facing which is similar to yours; pay attention to the advice you give them. You can apply that same advice to the problem YOU’RE facing. I firmly believe that by helping others we in turn help ourselves.
I’ve gone through a divorce, heartbreak, death, adoption, and personal setbacks. Because of these circumstances I CAN help people see that there IS a light at the end of the tunnel and by helping them do that I, in turn, help myself. There are answers out there, but if you’re in the thick of things it’s hard to see them. But if someone comes to you with an almost identical problem; and since you’re on the outside looking in you become more aware of the answer. When you see the answer you’re giving it becomes apparent that you too can use your own advice!
So remember. Even when you think you’re all alone; you’re not. Friends and family are just a phone call or (in my case) a text away. And if you have the opportunity to help someone in need; help them. Because not only will you inevitably help yourself; you just may find you’ve made a new friend too.
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